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Aug 13

Aug 11

Balance between Flexibility and Driven

“If you focus on results, you will never change. If you focus on change, you will get results.” ~Jack Dixon

Living without flexibility in the way we act and see the world leaves us at a severe disadvantage.

You can be one of those people with incredible drive, but sometimes trying to control everything just doesn’t pan out in the long run.

Real power comes from flexibility, not rigidity.

This fact is well known in the martial arts. Have you ever heard of Jiu Jitsu? It’s based entirely around reacting to your opponent. You use their force against them. Rather than facing them head on, you react to your opponent in a way that brings about the best result. Dealing with life is a lot like that.

No matter who you are, you’ll have a lot of things happen to you. Some will be good, and some will be bad. The sensei of life knows that flexibility in thinking and action is what brings true happiness. After all, the only constant in life is change.

Goals are good, but trying to constantly force your will is not only exhausting, but excruciatingly futile.

1. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.

Step out of your productivity bubble for some quality reflection now and then.

Embrace change, rather than fighting it, and you’ll be surprised with the results.

2.Stop Everything and Think!
Drop Everything And Read.

"I especially like to use this method before big decisions that require a lot of flexibility in thinking. I will meditate and clear my mind. This only takes a few minutes, and I end up having much greater clarity afterward."


Jul 29

These wisdoms cheer me up!

#1. Getting even doesn’t help you get ahead. – You will never get ahead of anyone as long as you try to get even with them. Sometimes we don’t forgive people because they deserve it. We forgive them because they need it, because we need it, and because we cannot move forward without it. To forgive is to rediscover the inner peace and purpose that at first you thought someone took away when they betrayed you.


#2. You attract what you show to the world. – So if you want it, reflect it. Happiness, freedom, and peace of mind are always attained by giving them out to others without expectation. The one who blesses others is abundantly blessed; those who help others are eventually helped. You have two hands; one to help yourself, the second to help those around you.


#3. Failure is success when you learn from it. – Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you want. Obstacles can’t stop you. Problems can’t stop you. Other people can’t stop you. These barriers are temporary – they come and go. Which is why, over the course of a lifetime, the only barrier that can truly stop you, is YOU. So don’t give up. Sometimes you have to journey through hell on Earth to find heaven on Earth.

#4. You are not what you have done, but what you have overcome. – All the hardships. All the mistakes. All the rejections. All the pain. All the times you questioned why. All of these things have given birth to the wisdom and strength that will help you shine your light on the world, even in the darkest of hours. Read Emotional Freedom.


#5. Your past can only hurt you today if you let it. – Do not pay any attention to what the past whispers if all it’s doing is bad-mouthing what today has to offer. There are times when you need to release the bitterness and grab a firm hold of happiness, without permission and without reason. The only way to get over the past is to leave it behind. If you spend your time re-living moments that are gone forever, you might miss the special moments that are yet to come.


#6. It’s never too late to become the person you are capable of being. – Repeat after me: “I AM FREE.” You can fulfill your life purpose by starting here, in this moment. The purpose of life is not to simply be happy, but to matter, to be productive, to be useful, to make some kind of difference that you have lived at all. Remember, life is constant change, but growth is optional. Choose wisely, starting now.


#7. The pain is worth it. – You can’t really begin to appreciate life until it has knocked you down a few times. You can’t really begin to appreciate love until your heart has been broken. You can’t really begin to appreciate happiness until you’ve known sadness. You have to struggle up the mountainside to appreciate the breathtaking view at the mountaintop.


#8. Sometimes what you don’t want is what you need. – Sometimes the things you can’t change end up changing you for the better. Master your responses to external events; don’t always attempt to control them. You will rarely end up exactly where you wanted to go, but you will always end up exactly where you need to be.


Jul 27

How to respond to feeling offended

1) Open-minded: acknowledge what’s happened, but not pass any initial judgement. Remember, most people do not intend to harm.

2) Optimistic: don’t overthink. Otherwise, those thoughts will just keep feeding themselves and grow bigger and bigger.

3) Humor: make the matter light and laugh about it.

做一个包容豁达,乐观幽默、感恩的人。


《论语》摘录

子曰:”贤哉回也!一箪食,一瓢饮,在了;陋巷,人不堪其忧,回也不改其乐.贤哉回也!”

出自《论语·雍也第六》

孔子说∶“好品德啊,颜回!吃的是一小筐饭, 喝的是一瓢水,住在穷陋的小房中,别人都受不了这种贫苦,颜回却仍然不改变向道的乐趣。贤德啊,颜回!”

The master said, Incomparable indeed was Hui! A hardful of rice to eat, a gourdful of water to drink,living in a mean steer-others would have found it unendurably depressing. But to Hui’s cheerfulness, it made no difference at all. Incomparable indeed was Hui!

子曰:”吾十有五而志乎学,三十而立,四十而不惑,五十而知天命,六十耳顺,七十而从心所欲不逾矩.”

The master said, “At fifteen I set my heart upon learning. At thirty, I planted my feet firm upon the ground. At forty, I no longer suffered from perplexities. At fifty, I knew what were the biddings of heaven. At sixty, I heard them with docile ear. At seventy, I could follow the dictates of my own heart; for what I desired no longer overstepped the right boundaries.


Jul 19

日本の女性の心の持ち方について, 内側から健やかに輝くためのライフスタイルの手に入れ方

◆第1章 日本の女性たちに伝えたいこと
1 さぁ、“痩せたい病”の治療から始めましょう。
2 新しい美の世界基準は”生命力”。
3 小顔信仰は日本だけの価値観です。
4 “カワイイ”から卒業しましょう。
5 どうして日本の女性は手で笑顔を隠しちゃうの?
6 “誰コレ?”修整後の自分にシンディ・クロフォードも呆れたほど。
7 食べないダイエットでは、心に闇が生まれます。
8 たとえ美しく着飾っても1分間の会話で中身の浅さはバレてしまいます。
9 男性に「察して欲しい」は通用しません。
10 家庭を守るもことも大事。でも、あなたの夢は?
11 私も遠回りばかりの人生でした。大丈夫。何歳からでもやり直せます。
12 “世間様”の奴隷になんかならないで。
13 “献身的”は自己満足に過ぎないわ。
14 日本のママはもっと遊びなさい!
15 辛いことを我慢してもいいことはないの。

◆第2章 自信を持つことが、なぜ大事かおわかりですか?
16 人と違うから、あなたには存在価値がある。
17 居心地のいい場所があることは素敵。でも成長はその外にあるの。
18 ストレスは悪いことばかりじゃない。
19 勇気も筋肉と同じ。トレーニングで鍛えられるのです。
20 病は気から。老化も気持ちから。
21 ネガティブ思考は人類の防衛本能。あなたのせいではありません。
22 でも、ネガティブ思考は癖になる。だから、自ら断ち切る努力を。

◆第3章 自信を持つためのエクササイズを始めましょう
23 目覚めた瞬間の思考が一日を決める。
24 幸せを3つ数えて眠りにつく。
25 ネガティブな気持ちになったらまずは眠りなさい。
26 お気に入りの3つのパーツを繰り返し思い出してみて。
27 自分は自分の最愛の恋人。丁寧に優しく扱ってあげて。
28 鏡はあなたの敵じゃない。
29 背筋を伸ばすと自然と自信が湧いてくる。
30 目をそらしたら美女が台無し。
31 人一倍シャイな私でもできた“エレガントな会話術”。
32 TO DOリスト作りを一度やめてみましょう。
33 自分のためだけの“理想の一日”を想像して。
34 “NO”は自分を大切にする魔法の言葉。
35 “アファメーション”は幸運を引き寄せる。
36 「あなたの情熱は何?」と聞かれたら直感で答えられますか?
37 ビジョンボードであなたの「好き!」を集めましょう。
38 死ぬ前に一度はやってみたいことは何? 
39 一日に何回不満を言ったか、一度数えてみて。きっと驚きますよ。
40 落ち込んだら、とにかく身体を動かしましょう。
41 深呼吸は心と身体への高級エステ。
42 自信がなくなったら、“ビタミンN”が効きます。

◆第4章 歳を重ねるって、とっても楽しい!
43 女性はワインと同じ。時間はあなたの味方です。
44 83歳のスーパーモデルに見る圧倒的な美。
45 30歳、40歳、50歳……。大台に乗るときは盛大にお祝いを!
46 セクシーに賞味期限はありません。
47 日本人女性の美意識レベルは世界一。
48 “日本人体型”は実は、外国人の憧れ。
49 10年後の自分が「ありがとう」と言ってくれることを今日やりましょう。
50 失恋、不採用、拒絶……。それは人生のチャンスよ!
51 うまくいかない人間関係は、ふさわしい人に出会うためのレッスン。
52 大切なものから順に人生を満たしていきましょう。
53 人を感動させるための人生ではなく、自分自身を感動させる人生を。


◆巻末ふろく「メンタルに悪い食べ物・良い食べ物」
自信がないのは食べ物のせいかもしれません。


Jul 15
Why You Need to Be Financially Self Sufficient

Why You Need to Be Financially Self Sufficient


Jul 2

Once in a while acceptance of today’s self takes courage… But I’m sure tomorrow I will be stronger as long as continuously walking towards the right direction. Don’t give up!



Jun 14

幸福学を学ぶ

人は、一人で生きて生きません。多くの力が借りられて人生は、心豊かに彩られていくものだと思います。

多くの人が力が借りられるのは、人柄だ。人格の力です。

その中にマナーがあるのです。マナーは「自分がこうしたら人にどう思われるのか」ではなく、「一所懸命生きる心」と「思いやりの心」なのです。


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